Q: How do you reserve an event?
A: We have a very discriminating clientele and are therefore very careful about who we accept for Membership. We screen all of our guests. Although we prefer to meet prior to allowing someone the privilege of Membership, we know this is sometimes impossible. See our Members page for more information.

Q: Where are the parties held?
A: Most of our parties are held at a luxurious hotel in Central New Jersey, close to both the Garden State Parkway and New Jersey turnpike.

Q: What kind of sexual "play" is allowed at Toga Joe's parties?
A: Guests may not engage in sexual activity (no sex or nudity) in the main party area. Flirting, kissing, and erotic dance is allowed and should be expected. Our parties are held in elegant hotels, where many guests have their own rooms booked. It is common for people with mutual and similar interests to take their play further in their private rooms later in the evening.

Q: Is this a sex party for "Swingers"?
A: Toga Joe's Events are NOT "on-premise" sex parties. Although our parties do attract persons involved in the Lifestyle (aka "Swingers"), sexual activity is not allowed in the main party area. An event is a private social gathering of like-minded people. It is a party environment where people can feel comfortable expressing this part of their lives. Many of our Members meet other people at the parties who share the same desires.

Q: What kind of "action" can we expect at the parties?
A: You can expect to see people having fun, dancing, and letting their hair down. You'll find people just enjoying the atmosphere as well as the company of others who share the same interests.

Q: We are only curious at this time. What if we reserve a party, but do not want to take part in any "play" ?
A: Many guests come for the party only and have a great time. At an event guests are expected to be friendly and social, but not pushy or presumptuous. Never are guests expected to participate in anything they don't want to.

Q: What is the dress code at the events?
A: Some of our parties have a "costume" theme to them, but contemporary fashion is the primary theme. Women can be as daring and erotic as they would like. Men should do their fashionable best to compliment their date.

Q: How will I know about future events?
A: Once you are approved for Membership, your email address is added to our mailing list. You will receive periodic messages informing you of upcoming events. Our Events page also lists these future parties.

Q: Will my face or that of my companion wind up on the internet?
A: Discretion is very important to us and our Members. Do not bring your camera to an event, no photos are allowed. We have a photographer who takes pictures of the guests. We will not post images of guests on the web site without explicit permission, and even then we blur the image as to not reveal the person's identity. If you would like an unedited copy of a picture of yourself taken at a party as a memento of an event, email us and we'll be happy to oblige.

Q. Does Toga Joe's have physical appearance and/or age requirements?
A: Unlike many other Lifestyle clubs, we're looking for attractive, stylish people in their 20s or 30s, although older couples who are physically appealing, attractive and stylish are admitted. Most of the couples at Toga Joe's are a good looking and appealing group of people who look like they could be in any trendy club or lounge. We regret when we have to decline invitations to very nice, sincere people for one reason or another. After you apply, if we feel that you may not be the kind of guest(s) that would fit in with our crowd, we will do our best to refer you to other local groups that you might find more to your liking.

Q: Are single men admitted?
A: ONLY Attractive Couples and Single Women will be admitted. Single Men are never admitted, nor are they ever invited. We will refuse entry (and reserve the right to) to couples we suspect are not actually a "couple".